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“I wonder how much of what weighs me down is not mine to carry.” ~Aditi
My dad once told me about his early experiences with my mother’s parents. He shared that he knew right from the start that there was something extremely off with them.
They were an elderly couple who would constantly curse at one another, belittle and embarrass each in front of others, and yell hate-filled words such as “I hate you,” “I wish you were dead,” and “I’d be better off without you.” He said the fighting would get so aggressive, that sometimes the police had to be called to the house to intervene.
When my dad finished his story, he sat back and sort of chuckled at the craziness of it all, while I sat there in silent shock and horror. Those were all the things my mother said to me.
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I Refuse to Inherit My Parents’ Pain and Problems
23 Wednesday Sep 2020
Blaise Pascal pointed out that “All of humanity’s problems come from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.” He didn’t mean sitting quietly in front of a laptop responding to emails. The best thinking comes from structured reflection — and the best way to do that is keeping a personal journal.
Excerpted from “The More Senior Your Job Title, the More You Need to Keep a Journal” by Dan Ciampa, hbr.org, July 7, 2017.
08 Thursday Aug 2019
This morning, a newsletter from Patheos popped up in my email. The above headline caught my eye and I read. It makes so much sense … and I am reminded that “prayer changes us”. Praying for the world at large requires a different mindset. It’s not simply, “O God, rain down your Spirit and renew the face of the earth.” Change begins with me. If you and I are ready to change and be transformed by God, then I believe peace and love between and among neighbors are possible. If I just pray, “Lord, may the perpetrators of deceit realize the hurts they are causing”, or “Lord, let this horrendous violence stop”, I am looking outside of myself. What will I, personally, sacrifice in order that I am a Light in this bleak world? We all have flaws, and if we allow God to heal our ungodly thoughts, behavior and speech, there’s hope that we can become a community of love. To be a peacemaker, I begin with self … if I can speak the language of love, I may be able to reach out to a soul hardened by the flaws of individuals and of the world and leave this disgruntled soul with a shining light which could be passed on … and on … and on.
I want to be clear that by “we,” I mean collectively, as a nation. Not to over-generalize anyone’s faith or practice or belief system. But when it comes to the corporate kind of “the prayers of a nation are with you” kind of prayer, what is meant by “prayer” often comes up short. It is a request to “fix it, Jesus,” with nothing behind it in the form of personal sacrifice or investment. It is a wish lifted to the heavens with nothing required on the part of the one who speaks it.
That ain’t gonna fly.
As my pastor reminded us Sunday in a sermon about prayer– prayer is meant to change us. But it’s not just about us, individually. Prayer is an act of community.
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